Monday, February 22, 2010

Happy Birthday Daddy!!

Today is Gabe's 24th birthday! We celebrated by eating lunch with the fam yesterday and we will be eating dinner with good friends tonight! Stevie and I got daddy some new clothes for his birthday and Eric Clapton tickets for this weekend. But Silas (Silas is what we are calling the little boy we are adopting) obviously didn't forget daddy's birthday either, because last week Gabe got a package in the mail from him. It was a t-shirt with amharic (the Ethiopian national language) writing on it that means "dad"! Mom may have helped a little.

I am feeling especially grateful today and feel the need to share it with you. The Lord has placed a lot of wonderful friends in our lives, they are blessings to us in so many ways. Yesterday, some of our closest friends, the Schluchters, gave us a wonderful gift. Misty had made cards, each with a different prayer from scripture on them. She added our children's names in each of the verses. She explained to me that so many times when praying for her own children, that her words fail her. I completely relate to this feeling. So many times when I am praying for Stevie I feel like my prayers are so shallow or selfish. Like I'm not asking for the Lords will for her life but my own. And with Silas, I just don't know what I should be asking for. Protection, health, patience, peace, direction, comfort, healing? How wonderful it is, to have written in black and white, a prayer from the word of God. Out of all of the verses she gave me I think this one may be my favorite...

"For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you, Stevie and Silas, and asking God to fill you with the knowledge of His will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding. And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please Him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God."
Colossians 1:9&10

Thursday, February 4, 2010

So, it's time.

When Sara Beth and I first began dating, one of the first things I noticed about her was her beauty. The second thing I noticed was her intelligence. The third, her passion for one day being an adoptive mother and allowing God to use her as a tool to fight poverty and give kids without a chance, a chance. Ok, so maybe it wasn't in that exact order. When you first begin dating someone, it's not typical to come right out and start talking about kids and your big family plans. But I gathered this information by choice and really began to see that she meant exactly what she said.

There wasn't really a particular moment that I can recall where a lightbulb went off and I knew that she was meant for the job. I could just tell by the way she cared for kids around us and her attitude towards the unfortunate. Not one of extreme pity, or squeals regarding cuteness of afro-puffs, but a genuine desire to commit to a life less fortunate than hers for the gain of the kingdom, and because God said so. I know that sounds uber-Christianese, but it's really the only way I can get the point across that she has had this desire for quite some time.

Being a guy with slight commitment issues, it honestly took me some time to really fall in love with the idea. For the longest time, I just couldn't wrap my head around the idea that God would call me to be a father to the fatherless. I have only known being a father to my own, and I have only learned that in the past year and a half. How could I ever love someone as much as my own child? A lot of questions have been going through my mind since we got married. I have put a lot of thought into this process and the possible outcomes, positive and negative (mostly negative). After we began to talk openly about it to each other, Sara Beth and I noticed that I was still not where she was in the process. It was going to take time and I was going to need answers.

So time came and went. We have experienced a lot through raising our own and through committing to helping others in need through Compassion International. God has really shown me that love doesn't have a blood-line boundary. Jesus didn't say "Love one another if you're related to them" or "Love your child more than your neighbor". He called us, dared us even, to love others as He has loved us, to "pay it forward" and do the same as he did for us. And for those that do not know the story, He suffered a grueling death, hanging on a tree so that we wouldn't have to suffer death.

So, we've decided it's time. I am so excited about making plans and getting our world ready for a new inhabitant. Adoption can be a long process, but we're using this time to prepare our hearts and our home for the journey that God has for us. While we prepare, we have been getting some questions that we would like to share our answers to below. Please feel free to comment and let us know your thoughts as well.

Why would you adopt when you can have kids of your own?
"Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you" James 1:27

Why Ethiopia?
There are many children in need of homes and families in the U.S. and we would encourage anyone interested in a domestic adoption to pursue it! Our hearts have been softened to the 3-5 million orphans in Ethiopia. In general, Ethiopia is one of the quickest and easiest countries to adopt from, as well as being fair, legal and regulated. An estimated 11% of all children in Ethiopia are orphaned. All statistics aside, we are adopting from Ethiopia, because we believe that is were our son is.

Why not adopt a little baby?
There are so many families that are not able to have children and adoption offers the opportunity for them to have a baby. While we think this is excellent, it is not us. Our hearts break for the 144 million orphans in the world, but specifically for the 90% of them that are over the age of 3.

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Love Story

Gabe and I are so excited to start this blog and document our family's growth! Here is a brief history to catch you up...

We were married on May 6, 2007. After dating a year and a half, we exchanged our vows on a beautiful Sunday night, at the Rosser farm.

After only six blissful months of marriage, we found out that we were expecting!

On August 11, 2008, Stevie Marion Rosser (named after my dad and Gabe's grandmother) came into our lives. We could not have been any happier!

The past year and a half have flown by. Stevie is now 18 months old and looks more like her dad every day. She loves playing with our two dogs Cash and Paisley (who she calls Tash and Pase) but they don't always love playing with her.

We are very blessed to live close to all of Stevie's grandparents. They are a huge part of our lives. Gabe works very hard with his graphic design business, sometimes at home and sometimes at the office. I am at home with Stevie on most days but love working as a hair stylist on the weekends. All three of us are very involved with our church family. We are so grateful that Stevie is growing up with such a wonderful group of family and friends, that are loving and encouraging her, and provoking her to righteousness.

What's next in our story? We think it's about time to give Stevie a big brother. That's right not a little brother, a big one.

"Whoever welcomes one of these little children in my name welcomes me..." Mark 9:37