Thursday, February 4, 2010

So, it's time.

When Sara Beth and I first began dating, one of the first things I noticed about her was her beauty. The second thing I noticed was her intelligence. The third, her passion for one day being an adoptive mother and allowing God to use her as a tool to fight poverty and give kids without a chance, a chance. Ok, so maybe it wasn't in that exact order. When you first begin dating someone, it's not typical to come right out and start talking about kids and your big family plans. But I gathered this information by choice and really began to see that she meant exactly what she said.

There wasn't really a particular moment that I can recall where a lightbulb went off and I knew that she was meant for the job. I could just tell by the way she cared for kids around us and her attitude towards the unfortunate. Not one of extreme pity, or squeals regarding cuteness of afro-puffs, but a genuine desire to commit to a life less fortunate than hers for the gain of the kingdom, and because God said so. I know that sounds uber-Christianese, but it's really the only way I can get the point across that she has had this desire for quite some time.

Being a guy with slight commitment issues, it honestly took me some time to really fall in love with the idea. For the longest time, I just couldn't wrap my head around the idea that God would call me to be a father to the fatherless. I have only known being a father to my own, and I have only learned that in the past year and a half. How could I ever love someone as much as my own child? A lot of questions have been going through my mind since we got married. I have put a lot of thought into this process and the possible outcomes, positive and negative (mostly negative). After we began to talk openly about it to each other, Sara Beth and I noticed that I was still not where she was in the process. It was going to take time and I was going to need answers.

So time came and went. We have experienced a lot through raising our own and through committing to helping others in need through Compassion International. God has really shown me that love doesn't have a blood-line boundary. Jesus didn't say "Love one another if you're related to them" or "Love your child more than your neighbor". He called us, dared us even, to love others as He has loved us, to "pay it forward" and do the same as he did for us. And for those that do not know the story, He suffered a grueling death, hanging on a tree so that we wouldn't have to suffer death.

So, we've decided it's time. I am so excited about making plans and getting our world ready for a new inhabitant. Adoption can be a long process, but we're using this time to prepare our hearts and our home for the journey that God has for us. While we prepare, we have been getting some questions that we would like to share our answers to below. Please feel free to comment and let us know your thoughts as well.

Why would you adopt when you can have kids of your own?
"Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you" James 1:27

Why Ethiopia?
There are many children in need of homes and families in the U.S. and we would encourage anyone interested in a domestic adoption to pursue it! Our hearts have been softened to the 3-5 million orphans in Ethiopia. In general, Ethiopia is one of the quickest and easiest countries to adopt from, as well as being fair, legal and regulated. An estimated 11% of all children in Ethiopia are orphaned. All statistics aside, we are adopting from Ethiopia, because we believe that is were our son is.

Why not adopt a little baby?
There are so many families that are not able to have children and adoption offers the opportunity for them to have a baby. While we think this is excellent, it is not us. Our hearts break for the 144 million orphans in the world, but specifically for the 90% of them that are over the age of 3.


  1. Guys, I am both praying for you and genuinely impressed by you. I don't want that to sound odd or out of left field (which a comment from me is far from ordinary). Allowing God to use you is an extraordinary thing. I pray all of the procedures and whatever you two have to go through for this go exactly as God has planned (not a lot of chance for it going otherwise)...

    God bless you two and Stevie!